Don't give advices

Dear Friend, 

You announce your recent marriage to me : congratulations to you and your wife.

If I may :

1. I observe on one picture that you sent that she is driving...  you: fine, good start, let you be modestly driven ;-)

 

2. One observation: generally people dress for being outside in society  but at home they are "relaxed", which means that they wear the worst joggings, tee shirts, sagging slippers etc., so that, as a consequence, they offer the worst pictures of themselves to the most important person. This is not fair, and we shall do the contrary.

Of course what I say is not only material, but also intellectual. 

3. Intelligence does not exist: it has to be put (explicitly) in all what we are doing and the question is not of communication: one friends of mine, when asked about how to become more intelligent said: "as we are all silly, I filter myself". But this is only to appear intelligent not becoming more intelligent.  The same about marriage.

 

4. With my wife, even before getting married we explictly decided for the "ministeries" : health, economics, work, internal affairs, foreign affairs, transportation, and we initially shared them... but we realized that, even if some minister positions are obvious (as she is a physician she is better for the Health Dpt), we should (almolst) fight to get them. 

5. Each week we have an "improvement of the mind" walk in the forest, for trying to improve as well our minds, but also our life. Then we have a special walk every trimester, plus one very special in the summer, one day long. Analysing all the past year, and deciding to new actions for the next, and the nexts. 

6. We observed a long time ago that we had to discuss explictly the questions of values. 

7. And each day, we try to improve our common life, bringing on the "table" as many dishes as we can (like in a wonderful picnic). 

But I know that advices are of no interest. Find your own way, and savor every second one after the other.